The 'Relating 101: It's A Man's World' Chronicles of Kris - 07.26.10

'It's tough being a woman cause at the end of the day, it's a man's world,' said my date. After almost two months of chatting, talking over the phone, and occasional outings, he decided to take me out to dinner. I've lost all zest for getting to know this guy in a romantic way but I do find him funny so I didn't mind going out to eat. But recently, I've been taken aback by his ways of thinking. He's recently expressed to me that women need to be ready, willing, and able to engage in whatever activity their man wants. However, when I asked him about things he does to please a woman on a variety of levels, he gave me a rundown of 'don'ts' when it comes to relating. Not only do I find this extremely selfish, I find it extremely laughable. My words: 'I am not the woman for you.' There is NO way that you are going to have full range of my friendship and already have limitations coming into any interactions with me. I asked him about his obvious double standards and he just shrugged his shoulders and kept on eating his dinner. 'It's tough out there for ya'll.' Although we don't fit in regards to desires in a relationship, I did enjoy the dinner mostly because as I've said recently, dating is an exercise. I feel like I'm being placed in a variety of crazy situations to test my self-confidence, my own security in my desires, and also just seeing what other perspectives are out here.

So onto the most hilarious part of the night...

When he dropped me off, he asked to park in my space. When he got out of the driver's side, I saw a little blue bag in his hand. I asked, 'What's that? I know that's not a travel bag in your hand!' He replied, 'Oh, I want to brush my teeth since we ate seafood.' Uh huh, whatever. I cannot believe that this guy really thought it was cool to whip out a travel bag. Why do you have a travel bag? We've gone out before and you have not whipped out your toothbrush and toothpaste. So clearly, this has worked for him sometime before! We're definitely not cool like that and if you thought something was going to happen, it sho' ain't happening now! Definitely not! (However, I was dying laughing at this.)

So when we got through my front door, I noticed he was taking off his dress shirt and I turned around. 'What do you think you're doing?,' I said again. He replied, 'I just wanted to get comfortable.' I just stared and chuckled at him. 'You can relax for an hour but you are not staying over.' Excuse me, what do you think this is?! When he finished brushing his teeth in the bathroom (ROTFLMAO), he sat down and told me that he liked how direct I was about letting him know not to get comfortable. He paused and then said, 'You've been telling me how dominating I am but really, you set the stage for the entire night. We sat outside because you wanted to, I turned the air conditioner off because you were cold, and I'll be going home and you had a good meal because you wanted that. You got everything you wanted in your own way.'

Well yea...I guess. But I mean, damn. This is my house! It is my world. Get right or get left. Get down or lay down!

We talked for a little while and then he got up and got ready to go. He said he wanted to see me again this week. I was pretty surprised because I made myself clear and our track record of getting together is few and far between. Oh well. Although pretty crass, I didn't take any of his actions to heart. If I had been in that situation in a previous season in my life, I would have made a big stink about it. 'How dare he show up with a travel bag? Was he just trying to do THAT and we've only gone out on a date once?' Uh, yes Kristen. Clearly.

But I think these randomly hilarious moments aren't showing me the game, but they are showing me myself. I am still laughing over the complete story. You'll have to call me for that. Some of those details can't quite make air without me crying from absolute hilarity! I am convinced I am not the only person going through these absolutely ridiculous scenarios.

XOXO,

Kris